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Leader or A$$hole?

Are you the boss, the big cheese, the head honcho? One word…Leadership. What is it and why is being a good leader important? I am sure many of us have had bosses in the past who were and still are complete assholes. We wonder how in hell they ever made it to a management position owning the personality of a toenail and no leadership skills whatsoever. 

Actually, I can think of a person right now who had the opportunity to be a great leader. As soon as he accepted the position, he became petty and mean and his opportunity to do good things went right out the window. Once liked by his co-workers, he has lost not only his reputation but the respect from others. 

On the flip side, I have known leaders who would get right down in the trench and work as hard as any of us. Always building moral, always fair and always consistent. Good days or bad. These are the people we tend to remember and use as a benchmark. 

If you are in a leadership position, ask yourself this: “Would I like working for me?” If you are a good leader, it’s an emphatic “Yes”, but if you are one of those people who walk into your work space and have to check for booby traps, have your name written on bathroom walls or people avoid you like the plague, guess what? 

Good leadership skills are as follows, Remember them and practice. 

Here are some key leadership skills you’ll need to succeed as a leader:

  1. Lead By Example. You can’t be an aloof leader, someone that’s never around and incapable of getting your hands dirty. One of the best ways to lead is by example – pitching in where needed, lending a helping hand, and making sure that the work you do is clearly understood by your team.
  1. Passion. A leader without passion isn’t a leader. He’s a paper pusher. Or a taskmaster. Or a government employee… Passion drives a lot, and you can inspire so much in others through your own passion and enthusiasm.
  1. Be Organized. A disorganized leader isn’t leading, he’s always back pedaling. Disorganization breeds nothing but more disorganization. If you’re disorganized, your team will be too.
  1. Delegate. You can’t do everything. A great leader needs to be able to delegate effectively. The key to delegating successfully is giving employees ownership of the work you assign them.
  1. Take Responsibility. Although you’ve just delegated work and truly given your team ownership, you also have to take ownership and responsibility at all times. Your team has to know you’ll be there for them through the good and the bad times.
  1. Communicate Effectively.  Everyone knows great leaders have to be great communicators. But there are certain points of communication that many people forget. Compliments creates good moral.  7. Leadership requires courage. And honesty. Tell it like it is. Don’t sugarcoat, don’t bullshit. Don’t be a jerk either. You have to learn how to present things in an honest but balanced manner.

There are other skills needed, like listening effectively, being honest and being human, but this should suffice for now.

 

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I Challenge You…

From the emails I have been receiving since I began this blog, I am seeing that there are many people who have come to the conclusion that something needs to change in their lives. I am talking positive, self-determination changes. Some feel they have waited long enough to live the life they have dreamed of, others want to take this journey but do not know where to begin and some are life warriors already, just waiting for that opportune moment to jump into a new challenge. 

Here is my Challenge

I challenge you to pick one goal that you have wanted to accomplish. I will do the same. Together, we will assist each other in focusing in on the steps needed, motivate each other to succeed and celebrate each others victory when we have completed this challenge. 

I will even send you a Challenge packet that will explain how to be your own life coach, a Life Coaching Wheel which you fill out that will examine the different areas of your life and will highlight clearly what goals you can set for yourself.  This is the paperwork I use personally.

So, if you are one of those who desires a new and better life, take my challenge. 

By the way, this is completely free this is not a scam. It is only a simple challenge to show you that you do have the ability to make changes successfully and the only cost to you is a positive attitude.  

TAKE THE CHALLENGE

 

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Warrior Spirit…

Throughout human history, feats of courage echoed with the savagery of battle. Almost ever society had within its culture, their warriors. From the Greek Spartans and the Persian Immortals up through the centuries to the modern-day elite military units. Some of those warrior societies that stand out in time: the Samurai, the Vikings, the Maya, the Zulu, the Crusaders, the Native Americans, the Romans, the Knights….and the list could continue indefinitely. All had codes that encompassed the virtues of strength, courage, honesty, respect, loyalty, humility and honor. Virtues that we can utilize in our own battles.

Then, there is another type of warrior that receives less distinction. They are called “spiritual warriors”. These warriors can be described simply as someone who’s journey is for self-discovery and who combats the universal enemy: self-ignorance, the ultimate source of all suffering. Another way to put this is that a spiritual warrior is someone who will fight every battle until they become enlightened, irregardless of whatever obstacles they encounter. Though many people loves this concept and the results are one of ridding one’s self of ignorance and acquiring a self focused knowledge of who you really are, most people haven’t got the guts to tackle this fight.

And finally, there is a life warrior. One of the qualities that warriors have is that they perseverance through challenges and hardships. Their goal is to win in war (life) knowing there are many battles (challenges). They do not make excuses for failure. In the face of defeat they simply state the facts as “I did my best and I lost”., taking responsibility for their own actions and decisions and continuing the good fight   Replace the word “war” with the word “life”, the concept of living life as a warrior means you will do your best, accept defeat but not become defeated and persevere to reach your goals. The warrior spirit enables you to get past even the most tragic and desperate events, become stronger and being prepared for your next battle.

Be aware of yourself and know yourself. No matter how much you have learned and how much you know, if you don’t know yourself you don’t know anything. Indeed, if you don’t know yourself you cannot know anything else. People who don’t know themselves criticize others from the point of view of their own ignorance. They consider what agrees with them to be good, and hate whatever doesn’t go their way. They become irritated about everything, causing themselves to suffer by themselves, bothering themselves solely because of their own prejudices. If you know that not everyone will be agreeable to you, know that you won’t be agreeable to everyone either. Those who have no prejudices in themselves do not reject people, and therefore people do not reject them.” Shosan

So, where does all this lead? It leads to your starting point. It is the first step in your transformation from what you are to what you want to be. By thinking as a warrior, you focus on those aspects and goals which will lead you to where you want to be. Whether in business, relationships or life in general, think as a warrior, feel as a warrior and believe as a warrior and you will find within yourself everything thing you need to succeed.

 

 

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Go sit on the Porch…

Picture yourself standing in a long line of people. It doesn’t matter why there is a line but it does matter where you are standing. Are you the first one in line, or are you in the middle? Maybe you see yourself standing at the back of the line. Now, compare your position in this line to where you are in life. Are you out front, setting and achieving the goals you have, or are you in the middle, fumbling around, not being able to focus in on where you want to go? Or are you at the end of the line, having given up and accepted your place in life no matter if you are happy or not.

For those who are in front, kudos to you. You have picked up the game ball and are running for the touchdown. Do not stop running. For that matter, do not stop dreaming. You have goals and you know how to reach them. Feel fortunate. You are a select few.

If you find yourself stumbling around on middle ground, you do know that you have what it takes to make that touchdown, you just do not have a focused game plan to follow. This is not a large obstacle. All you need to do is develop that game plan and you will be on your way. For now, put the ball down, take however long it takes and make that plan come into focus. Look inside yourself and become familiar with what you really want and need out of life. Write this down, read it every day, modify if you have to and then pick the ball up and haul ass down the field.

Now, for those who have given up and accepted life and what it has to offer, you have a choice to make. You can continue to accept the boring and sit back while life passes you by. It may be simple and it may be easy but I can tell you it will NOT be fulfilling and exciting. The old saying goes, “If you can’t run with the big dogs, go sit on the porch.” Find this poster and hang it on your refrigerator. This will be your life and this poster will validate that you do not have what it takes to find your dreams, let alone, reach them.

But, if you are tired of sitting on the porch, here is something you should know. No matter what you think or what people have told you, you do own what it takes to run with the big dogs. You just do not know it. You may not run as fast, but deep inside you, you have the strength, the endurance and the ability to create any dream you want and not only that, you have what it takes to reach this dream.

It is only a matter of thinking differently. We have been taught by parents, schools and society that life is full of obstacles. That life is not fair and only the strong survive. All this information has built up over the years and has replaced our natural abilities towards what is positive with negativity. Many of us wake up in the morning thinking…”I have to go to work.”, “I have to deal with my boss.” or “I hope this will be a good day and nothing crappy happens.” Starting the day off looking at all possible negative things is a damned good way to keep the day negative.

Replace those bullshit thoughts with…”It will be a good day.” or “No matter what the boss does, he does not have the power to control how I feel.” and “No matter what happens, I will keep this a good day and give it 100% of my time, energy and commitment.”

Just by changing how we look at life can be the difference between the mundane and the exciting. If you do not believe that positive thinking can create a positive attitude, please, do not take my word for it. Try it. I can guarantee that if you give it 100%, you WILL see a change for the better….if not, go sit on the porch and be a spectator.

 

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Know your enemy…

Why is it that people can not find happiness or success in their dreams?  Though there are numerous personal reasons, a major factor is the living environment itself.  That major challenge is the negative, cynical attitudes of other people. These people are not your enemies, they are friends, even family members. Well, a couple might be your enemy, but that is besides the point.

If our friends and family are negative towards our dreams or aspirations . . . our friends and family can keep us from reaching our goals.

You get excited about the possibility of a new job, a new idea, or a new image. You decide to give up smoking, lose weight, see the opportunity to better your life or rise to a personal challenge.

Then you tell your friends or family about your plan, and you hear . . . “You can’t do that” . . . along with a list of all the problems and challenges as to why you will never make it happen. 

Your enthusiasm disintegrates. You begin to have some self doubt creep into your dream which diminishes that fire and self-confidence and you begin to think of all the reasons why you can’t make it, instead of the reasons that you can. 

Remember, the world is full of these people that will tell you all the things you cannot do or cannot be. Why? Because they do not have what it takes to succeed and they do not want you to prove them wrong. Do not listen to them! 

If you have a dream, make it happen. Do not let anyone take that faith you have in yourself to make things happen. 

If you have that flame of a dream deep down inside you somewhere, do something about it, and don’t let anyone else diminish it. 

Believe you can, and you will find you can. 

Just do it! You will be surprised how many good things can happen to you! 

 

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After the Battle…

Most of the time, I practice what I preach, but it was not always that way. I have fought battles and won and I have fought battles and lost. I have wimped out and let some battles dictate how I felt and interacted with the world. A few of these battles cost me dearly and with some, I almost paid the ultimate price.

I know personally about making stupid choices in life and I know personally about addictions. I know the feelings of isolation, of loneliness, of rage and of envy. I know how it feels to lose people close to you and I have lived in times where you could not break down my walls with dynamite. But I survived….I survived and learned.

I still have my issues, just like every human being on this planet, and I still have to battle some of these issues on a daily basis, but I do battle them. I have reached the stage where nothing and no one will bring me down. It is a place where at times I can find peace within myself, acceptance of both my strengths and weaknesses, and own a genuine connection to what is around me. Some days I just sit and enjoy the benefits of winning battles, knowing I did my best and persevered the onslaught of all the shit that life threw at me. Other days, I awake, knowing a battle will ensue and prepare my self for war. During these times, I fight well, and at the end of the day, I sit knowing I did my best no matter the outcome.

This is how we not only survive life, but grow with life. It is here we exercise our endurance, fine tune our mind and spirit and begin to see and understand that we do have what it takes to create whatever life we want to own.

I own these tools and so do you. Use them.

 

 

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What Is Life?…

“What is life? It is the flash of a firefly in the night. It is the breath of a buffalo in the wintertime. It is the little shadow which runs across the grass and loses itself in the sunset.”…Ute Prayer

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