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Leader or A$$hole?

Are you the boss, the big cheese, the head honcho? One word…Leadership. What is it and why is being a good leader important? I am sure many of us have had bosses in the past who were and still are complete assholes. We wonder how in hell they ever made it to a management position owning the personality of a toenail and no leadership skills whatsoever. 

Actually, I can think of a person right now who had the opportunity to be a great leader. As soon as he accepted the position, he became petty and mean and his opportunity to do good things went right out the window. Once liked by his co-workers, he has lost not only his reputation but the respect from others. 

On the flip side, I have known leaders who would get right down in the trench and work as hard as any of us. Always building moral, always fair and always consistent. Good days or bad. These are the people we tend to remember and use as a benchmark. 

If you are in a leadership position, ask yourself this: “Would I like working for me?” If you are a good leader, it’s an emphatic “Yes”, but if you are one of those people who walk into your work space and have to check for booby traps, have your name written on bathroom walls or people avoid you like the plague, guess what? 

Good leadership skills are as follows, Remember them and practice. 

Here are some key leadership skills you’ll need to succeed as a leader:

  1. Lead By Example. You can’t be an aloof leader, someone that’s never around and incapable of getting your hands dirty. One of the best ways to lead is by example – pitching in where needed, lending a helping hand, and making sure that the work you do is clearly understood by your team.
  1. Passion. A leader without passion isn’t a leader. He’s a paper pusher. Or a taskmaster. Or a government employee… Passion drives a lot, and you can inspire so much in others through your own passion and enthusiasm.
  1. Be Organized. A disorganized leader isn’t leading, he’s always back pedaling. Disorganization breeds nothing but more disorganization. If you’re disorganized, your team will be too.
  1. Delegate. You can’t do everything. A great leader needs to be able to delegate effectively. The key to delegating successfully is giving employees ownership of the work you assign them.
  1. Take Responsibility. Although you’ve just delegated work and truly given your team ownership, you also have to take ownership and responsibility at all times. Your team has to know you’ll be there for them through the good and the bad times.
  1. Communicate Effectively.  Everyone knows great leaders have to be great communicators. But there are certain points of communication that many people forget. Compliments creates good moral.  7. Leadership requires courage. And honesty. Tell it like it is. Don’t sugarcoat, don’t bullshit. Don’t be a jerk either. You have to learn how to present things in an honest but balanced manner.

There are other skills needed, like listening effectively, being honest and being human, but this should suffice for now.



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I Challenge You…

From the emails I have been receiving since I began this blog, I am seeing that there are many people who have come to the conclusion that something needs to change in their lives. I am talking positive, self-determination changes. Some feel they have waited long enough to live the life they have dreamed of, others want to take this journey but do not know where to begin and some are life warriors already, just waiting for that opportune moment to jump into a new challenge. 

Here is my Challenge

I challenge you to pick one goal that you have wanted to accomplish. I will do the same. Together, we will assist each other in focusing in on the steps needed, motivate each other to succeed and celebrate each others victory when we have completed this challenge. 

I will even send you a Challenge packet that will explain how to be your own life coach, a Life Coaching Wheel which you fill out that will examine the different areas of your life and will highlight clearly what goals you can set for yourself.  This is the paperwork I use personally.

So, if you are one of those who desires a new and better life, take my challenge. 

By the way, this is completely free this is not a scam. It is only a simple challenge to show you that you do have the ability to make changes successfully and the only cost to you is a positive attitude.  



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Wake up call…

I thought I would pass this on. It is an email I received recently and understanding that the economy is still in the toilet due to corporate greed and government incompetency, there are many people who are just scraping by financially and others that are having a difficult time keeping their heads above water.  Some have given up, yet others have not… 

“I am writing to let you know that some of the stuff you have wrote has helped me make it throgh some bad days. I have been unemployed for about 8 months now and my savings are almost gone. I do what I can to live cheaper and not spend money, but some days it is really hard. I don’t want to sound like I am whining. I just want to thank you for giving me some hope. Your stuff has helped. Thanks”

I thank you for your kind words and the realization that I need to be thankful for all those gifts I do own. I am humbled by your words and they validate my goal of giving motivation and showing others that they need to give thanks also. Remember that there is always a new day and new opportunities if you can hold your courage and continue moving forward. I wish you all the good things in life and know by your words that you are one of those life warriors I write about. Keep up the good fight and know that what you are going through is temporary. It will get better.

For those of you who have a good life, take a moment and give thanks and appreciate the fact that your life could be much worse.




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Know your enemy…

Why is it that people can not find happiness or success in their dreams?  Though there are numerous personal reasons, a major factor is the living environment itself.  That major challenge is the negative, cynical attitudes of other people. These people are not your enemies, they are friends, even family members. Well, a couple might be your enemy, but that is besides the point.

If our friends and family are negative towards our dreams or aspirations . . . our friends and family can keep us from reaching our goals.

You get excited about the possibility of a new job, a new idea, or a new image. You decide to give up smoking, lose weight, see the opportunity to better your life or rise to a personal challenge.

Then you tell your friends or family about your plan, and you hear . . . “You can’t do that” . . . along with a list of all the problems and challenges as to why you will never make it happen. 

Your enthusiasm disintegrates. You begin to have some self doubt creep into your dream which diminishes that fire and self-confidence and you begin to think of all the reasons why you can’t make it, instead of the reasons that you can. 

Remember, the world is full of these people that will tell you all the things you cannot do or cannot be. Why? Because they do not have what it takes to succeed and they do not want you to prove them wrong. Do not listen to them! 

If you have a dream, make it happen. Do not let anyone take that faith you have in yourself to make things happen. 

If you have that flame of a dream deep down inside you somewhere, do something about it, and don’t let anyone else diminish it. 

Believe you can, and you will find you can. 

Just do it! You will be surprised how many good things can happen to you! 


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The Fog of Living…

Normally ambitious and having talents, people who lack direction waste their time and talents. Because there is no clear road map, people tend to drift through life, feeling frustrated and dissatisfied with their lives. This lack of direction can be the result of reaching a cross-road in their lives and not knowing what to do next. Ask yourself these questions:


  • Do you become easily bored?
  • Have you had numerous careers in your life?
  • Are you frustrated, bored and unhappy in life?
  • Do you feel that you drift along without direction?
  • Do you feel that life is passing you by and you do not know how to re-engage?



DO NOT feel alone. The problem for many people today seems to be that the majority of them live without a sense of purpose. There is no direction in their lives and spent their lives living day to day, trying desperately to find happiness and a sense of worth in who they are and what they are doing. People may very well have dreams and goals, but without direction, they are not going to be able to fulfill these desires. Why? Because they do not know what they want.


Anything that causes stress, anger or sadness is an obstacle that is delaying you from achieving your goal and needs to be ended. This not only means a change in the way you think, but also in the way you live everyday life. From getting the proper rest, eating the proper foods, getting exercise and do something that you truly love doing, everyday. And give it 100% of your time, energy and commitment. You will not get those things your desire until you know what they are and how to reach them. 

Every single action you take and every bit of energy you spend should be contributing towards achieving your goals in life.

To finish up here so you can be to reflect on your new direction, here is what you need to do:

Sit and reflect quietly and try to define what you want out of the time you have left. What do you really want out of life and how will you get them? And give 100% to every step you will make to reach your destination.  It may take time and it may be difficult to focus, but the effort will be well worth your your commitment.


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Accept it or Change it…

Don’t say you don’t have enough time. You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein.” –Life’s Little Instruction Book

I realize that I am sounding like one of those old timey preachers or a broken record, whichever the case may be, but the topic is important to those who need or want to enjoy life to it’s fullest.  This sermon/recording is about change. No matter if we want change or try to avoid change, change will happen. Nothing stays the same. Spiritually, emotionally or physically. Change is happening right now, as you sit, reading this. Some change we have little or no control over. The process of growing old can not be stopped, but the physical change and the emotional change of growing old can be tweaked. We can face our progression through time with a positive attitude and a healthy lifestyle. We cannot turn back the hands of time.

The problem lays with the fear we have for change. Something new and different. Right now, many people are living their lives, regretting about past choices and looking into the future, wishing for better outcomes. But in reality, they are living in this moment. They have become so accustomed to this looking back and wishing forward that it has become second nature and to change their lives is scary and many people will choose to live their lives this way because they carry fear inside of them.  Instead, some will simply exist, pretending they are “content” with life, while others will abuse drugs and alcohol, thinking they are living life to the fullest by numbing their bodies and minds.  And some will take the chance to improve the life they are living now.  Which one will you be? 

For those who want to live better, to wake each morning, refreshed and connected with themselves in body, mind and spirit, then begin now.

  1. Get enough restful sleep.

  2. Eat a nutritional breakfast

  3. Get some exercise, whether it is going to a gym or just talking a brisk walk.

  4. Find time to be alone and reflect. Meditation, yoga or just sit and watch the sunset.

  5. Dare to dream.

We have heard this many times from many people and still, many do not get it. Some are not ready and others are too lost. You have but one life to live and you need to live it to its full potential. Go far, take chances and live passionately.

Begin now to live your life or accept what you have now and deal with it. It is your choice.


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Finding Inner Strength…

Inner strength: What is this phenomena and how do we tap into this energy? Inner strength consists of willpower, self-discipline, self-control, persistence, detachment, the ability to concentrate and, if you are really in-tune, provides us with peace of mind. Needless to say, though I will anyway, these skills are important all areas of our lives. To break the definition down into basics, inner strength is:

Willpower is the inner strength to make decisions, take action, and complete any goal, regardless of self-doubt or difficulties. Willpower is the ability to conquer negative habits, and succeed in reaching our goals or dreams.

Self discipline is the ability to ignore those pangs of instant gratification in favor of reaching a higher goal. Self discipline is the inner strength to persevere in our actions or plans in spite of challenges or difficulties.

Spirituality is another meaning for inner strength, which is your personal values that you are sustained by throughout your journey through life. Your inner strength does not have to do with how you behave or act, but more with who you are.

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” Dr. Seuss

According to all great philosophers, we need to awaken ourselves to the power and beauty of being alive within the present. We are living in challenging times of upheaval and social, economic and personal changes. Even though we have our own personal beliefs of what a positive attitude means, many of us have become overwhelmed with the complexities life and its main ally, information over-load.

To find your inner strength:

1. Looking inside yourself:

The very first step of finding inner strength is to connect with nature and to reflect. Do nothing, sit and observe while breathing slowly and deeply. Get in touch with your inner being and the spirituality within you.

2. Affirm, accept and believe in your qualities:

We all own qualities that make us unique. Courage, determination, compassion and a sense of respect are already within us, even if we do not realize this. These qualities can set you apart and can be validated by using “I am” statements.

Other things you can do to find your inner strength:

A. Appreciate and accept yourself

B. Be forgiving

C. Do what makes you happy

D. Focus on the positive

E. Being patient.

F. Being open.

G. Being thankful to life and the gifts you own.

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